Elderly Individuals in Borneo

A man making a fishing net!










An elderly woman weaving fabric material.

A simple and humble life!

How do the elderly individuals in Borneo describe and interpret loneliness?

I am in the process of recruiting "informers" or "participants" for my comparative research on how elderly individuals in Borneo describe and interpret loneliness?
This study will examine and generate an in-depth understanding of loneliness as experienced by eight individuals (65 years and above) living independently.
I will compare these future findings to the findings of my doctoral dissertation which was defended in 2007 at the University of Rochester, NY.

Loneliness and Lived experiences of Elederly Individuals Living Independnetly: Hermeneutic Phenomenological Approach

Peter Abas, L.S.L., M.R.E., M.A., & Ed.D

Loneliness id a pervasive human experience. It is a subjective experience that is influenced by one's personality ans situational variables. Loneliness has been recognized as a public health problem that requires the attention of clinicians and researchers both as a condition in itself and its relationship to other conditions.

The study examined and generated and in-depth understanding of loneliness as experienced by eight individuals (65 years and above) living independently. A hermeneutic-phenomenological approach was used to describe and to interpret the meaning of loneliness in the lived experience of elderly individuals. These interpretations were made possible through the support of the incidental themes, which were formulated by the participants' descriptions of their experiences of loneliness.

Through interpretation, four themes emerged from explanations of how the elderly individuals interpreted loneliness. First, the participant experienced the existence of a painful void. Second, the participants experienced a state of being overwhelmed with work and emotion. Third, participants experienced a state of emotional pain. Fourth, the participant experienced a state of no direction.

These findings affirmed that negative feelings were associated with loneliness according to the participants' descriptions. Understanding the common themes and meanings of the lived experience of these elderly individuals provides an effective base for the therapeutic relationship between counselor and the elder. The strengths and limitations of the study, and significant implications of the findings and future research, practice and education in counseling, were identified.

Vicky describes...

Vicky selects a garden of flowers as metaphor. She feels that flowers symbolize happiness and are colors of life. However, she admits a garden of flowers aslo symbolizes the existence of resentment in her. The reason is that she longs to have cheerful life. Vicky with her gentle voice, allows to flow very well. Vicky elaborates that the a garden of flowers alwyas brightens her mood and makes her cheerful and happy. She was comfortable exploring each question and cofidently answered questions posed to her.

She describes, "I think it (loneliness) is more like emptiness. So right there and then I have covered half the day. so even if I do not have any plans to go our for the rest of the day. the spiritual experience and the contact with people gives a lift. That even if that kind of empty feeling comes along and I feel lonely, later in the day; I have built the foundation in the morning for my day."

Venture to Borneo-To all my american friends-

Situated in the northern district of Kudat, the heartland of the Rungus people, Maranjak Homestay was developed by a family, which have come together for a community project to share their lifestyle and culture with visitors. The journey to Kudat (about 130 kilometers from Kota Kinabalu) will take about two and half hours, cruising the Land Below The Wind with rice field and magnificent mountain sight along the way. Maranjak Homestay began welcoming visitors to the longhouse in the village of Bavanggazo in 2002.

Arrived safely in Borneo- WOW-

Pepper and bananas plantation of Borneo.




The 24 hours of flight was very challenging, I safely arrived and landed on Borneo Island. Nonetheless, my two luggages were misplaced and I arrived without my belongings. Today at 7.00 pm, I received a call from the airport informing me that my two luggages have just arrived from Korea.

My jet-lag caused stomach upset!

I will continue to blog again. I am missing you all Rochesterians!

Kotohuadan & Till we meet again!

It was a mixed feeling of joy and sadness on Sunday (10/3/2010), it was my farewell and thanksgiving mass at St. Cecilia Church. There were many parishioners who attended the Holy Mass.
Thank you for your kindness and generosity.
I am on my way home to Borneo!................................

...Borneo my homeland!

Today was my last day of ministry at the Sister of Mercy of Americas. Being in the Mercy Mother house was a blessing and to have ministered the elderly individuals (Religious sisters, priests and laity) in residence at the Center was a great joy.

After the Holy Mass today the residents gave the blessing to me as a sign of sending off:

Father Peter,
your gifts have opened us
to the wonderful riches of a culture
far different from our own.
You have reached out with an open heart
to the gifts of our culture
and especially of our aging population.
We are grateful for your faith ministry to us.
You care and compassion are inspiring.

As you make your way back to Borneo,
we ask Our Lady of Peace to accompany you.
May God deepend your faith and your prayer
so that wherever you go
and whatever you do,
you will continue to be guided by the Holy Spirit.
May the blessing of God be upon you
as you minister in your new parish
and among the people of Borneo.
May you enrich their lives
as you have enriched ours.

Father Peter,
Our Prayer for you is the song that you have taught us:

May the blessing of the Lord be upon you
we bless you in the name of the Lord (2x)

May the Love of the Lord be upon you
we bless you in the name of the Lord (2x)

May the Hope of the Lord be upon you
we bless you in the name of the Lord(2x)

...aging gracefully...99th

Yesterday was Helen 99th Birthday! What a joy for her and her family. God bless you Helen.

Happy 92 Birthday to you

Sister Virginia Wilson, RSM celebrated her 92...today! What a gift of life. God bless you sister and many more years!

...a long process to see the fruit!

Successfully produced two DVD!

...shamrock was singing...

Sister De Paul told me today that her bird Shamrock was happily singing yesterday evening.
Sister has shamrock as her beloved pet for almost five years.

Big smile for her birthday!

Today is Sister Dorothy Schlueter's 92 birthday. God bless you sister!

A sister with many talents! Happy Birthday

Yesterday was Sister M. Poole's 78th Birthday.
Many more blessings to you, Sister.

Blessed Feast Day Sister Ruth

Today is Sister Ruth's Feast day. "It is the Nativity of our Blessed Mary."
We sang "May the Blessing of the Lord" to her as a blessing on this wonderful occasion.

...another description and interpretation?

Another chance to describe and to interpret this painting?

....?

Seeing this painting what is your description and interpretation of it?

...tranquility of the inner-self produces the peacefulness sound...

Sisters of Mercy Motherhouse residents prove they don't miss a beat

By Amy Kotlarz/Catholic Courier

BRIGHTON -- The monthly drum circle at the Sisters of Mercy Motherhouse starts early, allowing the sound of drums to reverberate to the floors above and below.

"Why don’t we just play and wake up the others?" Father Peter Abas, motherhouse chaplain and sacramental minister at Henrietta's Guardian Angels Parish, jokingly suggested to those gathered for the November session.

Father Abas, who began leading the motherhouse’s drum circle several months ago, headed around the room passing out drums, maracas and other percussion instruments big and small to the group of elderly sisters, priests and laypeople.

Once all had instruments, Father Abas suggested they warm up, and he clapped out a beat with his hands. On his cue, participants joined in with taps, booms, bangs and clangs. Father Abas then added a more complex rhythm, and Sister Margaret Caufield, a retired music teacher, created a melody from her perch at the piano.

The din came to a prompt close when Father Abas counted "4-3-2-1," and then the jokes started.

"We can make a lot of money if we go for a concert," the priest quipped.

Yet unlike many other musical groups, this drum circle is an end unto itself. Father Abas, who has led several other area drum circles, noted its therapeutic aspects: It helps people relax, gives them energy, and allows them to vent frustrations and express their talents. At the outset, he said, some of the participants seemed weak, but after even one session of drumming, they appeared to be invigorated.

To illustrate this point, during a break in the music Father Abas asked the 80- and 90-year-old participants how they felt.

"Oh, about 25," one sister responded.

"I want to get up and dance," said Sister Mary Carmella Coene, who will turn 100 on Dec. 21. During the circle, she vigorously hit a bass drum as tall as the seat on her wheelchair.

After the drumming session Father Abas pointed out that many of the circle’s participants live in the motherhouse’s dementia unit.

"This is the first time I have done it (a drum circle) in a residence and with some in a state of Alzheimer’s or dementia," he noted.

To help them get the full benefit of the circle, he gently encouraged participants who were reluctant to pick up an instrument and try drumming. For example, one sister who was wheeled to the circle tried to turn down the offer of a drum.

"I don’t want any," she said. "I don’t want to make noise."

"Today, you are not making noise, you are producing noise," Father Abas remarked as he handed her a drum.

Other participants said they are sold on the circle and on Father Abas.

"I think Father’s spirit is so wonderful," Sister Mary Jude Rockenbrock said.

"You don’t have to do it exactly, and you don’t have to be musical," Sister Rita Biel remarked.

"When you really get going, you can feel the other people take over," said Father David Doerner, a former missionary to Japan who participated in the circle.

The communal nature of the circle is one reason why Sister Caufield, the piano player, said she pines to be back in its midst.

"One hour of piano playing at my age is difficult," said Sister Caufield, who taught at Rochester's St. Andrew and St. John the Evangelist schools.

But if it is difficult, Sister Caufield doesn’t let on. As participants call out the names of songs from the patriotic ("God Bless America"), to the nostalgic ("You are my Sunshine"), to the seasonal ("Santa Claus is Coming to Town"), she pulled the melodies from her memory.

Some sisters joined in singing the songs. Sister Caufield’s biological sister, Sister Ann Caufield, said it's clear that people find it fun to be a part of the circle.

"By the looks on their faces, everybody seems to enjoy it," she observed.

Loneliness vs. Solitude

Loneliness vs. Solitude

Loneliness is inner emptiness. Solitude is inner fulfillment. - Richard J. Foster

+ Just like two summer peaches, loneliness and solitude can often appear to be the same; however, don’t be deceived. One is bursting with sweetness while the other is rotting away. Lord, teach us the grace of solitude. +

...Will there be a place for Creative Therapy Sessions in Borneo?

The possibility of introducing "Creative Therapy Sessions: Harmonizing Sacred Drumming, Arts and Reflective Discussion" for the Elderly Care in Borneo. I had conducted many sessions in Rochester, NY and I am confident that this Creative Therapy Sessions will find a place in Borneo.


A beautiful painting produced by Late Joan Hull. She did this painting while she was doing the program with me " Integrated Individual Therapy: Harmonize Through Sacred Drumming, Art and Reflective Discussion.











It is never too late to come together! You will be surprised that by playing together you will be able to feel the "peacefulness of your inner-self."

...I obtained my doctorate from UOR!

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...hard work!

The real fruit of hard work!
Doctors graduated from University of Rochester, 08!

...many voices...

With each successive meeting, the group is more in tune with other and themselves. the drumming is more harmonious. The discussions pour out more sharing. The paintings become more vivid. Father explains, "Everyone is speaking, everyone is heard, and each person's sound unique. We can feel our "heart-beats" through the sound of the drums and we all have a sacred story to share." , Abas -2009 Charism Newsletter.



Keep on moving the brush and it produces wonderful "product" and this is the sample of work done by 18 persons who took part at the workshop on" Integrated Group Therapy: Sacred Drumming, Arts and Reflective Discussion."

..team work...

Let continue to work as a team!

...ting..ting...ting, ting, ting...ting ting ting ting

Guess what are these?
Little bells I tied around my ankles when I am doing the drumming!

...watch the hands...

Watch the hands!

...she knows the description and interpretation of her art!

By giving a person an opportunity to express her inner feelings through painting, enables her to describe and to interpret the in-depth meaning of the art.

Shamrock....

Shamrock are you singing today? Shamrock makes beautiful sound...pipi..pippi..

...creativity with her hands...

Happy with her beautiful art! God bless you.

...the beats of the drums can bring the peacefulness...

Waiting for all the drummers!
"Our stories are not finished until we breath our last breath."

...fruitful way...

We harmonized our inner-feelings through sacred drumming!

...Joan I miss you...

Two beautiful painting done by late Joan Hull.
I worked with her for 22 weeks in a program we called "Joan's spiritual journey harmonized through sacred drumming, arts and reflective discussion."

...rewarding journey!

A 93 year old man said this statement to me today. "I had struggled to be who I am now." He is such a blessing to me, I learned a lot from his stories.

"You don't have to have musical training."

"You don't have to have musical training."

A priest named Peter Abas recently led a group of Irondequoit seniors in spiritual exercises involving drums. (Why didn't St. Ignatius think of that?) Ironically, "harmony" is one of the stated goals of this percussive cacophony. The Catholic Courier of Rochester captured it for posterity on video.

This write up was taken from "Ten Reasons"
Posted by Rich Leonardi at Saturday, August 07, 2010

...Loneliness?

Rochester Priest Studies Loneliness in the Elderly By Amy Kotlarz, Rochester Catholic Courier February 28, 2008 To get a handle on loneliness in the elderly, Father Peter Abas, parochial administrator at St. Anne Parish in Rochester, asked seniors he was counseling to describe their lives through art. Together, they painted a picture. One woman contributed a cactus to the canvas. “Life for her is a cactus -- so dry,” he said. That was just one metaphor of many that seniors used to describe their lives to Father Abas as he researched his doctoral dissertation on how elderly individuals describe and interpret the experience of loneliness. “Loneliness is the existence of a powerful void; the state of being overwhelmed with work and life; the state of emotional pain; and the state of no direction,” he said. He earned his doctorate in education with a specialization in geriatric populations in December of 2007 from the University of Rochester’s Margaret Warner Graduate School of Education and Human Development. In addition to the doctorate, Father Abas also has three master’s degrees and has worked in a variety of fields, including youth ministry with street gangs in the Bronx. At St. Anne, Father Abas has led several initiatives for the elderly, including discussion groups and an intergenerational drum circle. In January, Father Abas left to take a seven-week journey back to his native Borneo, where he grew up in the Malaysian state of Sabah. Speaking in an interview prior to his trip, he said he intends to continue his research by interviewing the elderly in Borneo as well. He said he plans to compare whether a different cultural background changes how people describe loneliness. He said work on his doctorate “Loneliness and Lived Experiences of Elderly Individuals Living Independently: A Hermeneutic Phenomological Approach” took two years to complete. He recruited volunteers from throughout upstate New York who were 65 years and older and living independently. All were from different professional backgrounds, and his research subjects included a retired social worker, a retired English teacher and a retired professional truck driver. Father Abas had the seniors describe their everyday lives, then he was able to interpret the meaning of the phrases they used and the words they said to him. “I couldn’t jump to the conclusion of whether they were lonely or not,” Father Abas noted. As he began to explore the theme of loneliness more, Father Abas asked people what they did when they were lonely, how they would explain the reason for their loneliness and how they would describe their experience with loneliness. “Some of them found it easy to speak, and they were very open with their story,” Father Abas said. “Some found it really difficult.” Although he was confronted with initial reluctance, Father Abas did have success when he asked the elderly to describe a favorite memory, which led to disclosures about loneliness. “I could even see some of them really feel a burden in their lives,” he said. Many used metaphors to describe their lives, such as a flowing river, a flower, a cross, a sunset, an oak tree, an entangled circle or a spinning top. After a while, though, as participants continued meeting with Father Abas, some began to look at the world in more positive ways. For example, the person who described life as a flowing river amended the statement to say the river was not that treacherous. “It’s flowing much better,” Father Abas recalled the person saying. Sue Murty, director of social work at St. Ann’s Community in Rochester, said isolation and loneliness in the elderly can be caused by the loss of loved ones; the loss of independence, such as the loss of driving abilities; and the loss of physical abilities, such as hearing or mobility. She said seniors often are reluctant to talk about being lonely, so neighbors and friends should keep watch for signs of changes in routine, reclusive behavior or depression. Another sign may be an eagerness to talk for a long time, she said. Friends and neighbors should begin asking questions if they see signs of loneliness, she noted. “Start by saying, who else do you get support from? Are there other persons in your life?” Murty said. Father Abas said other ways to cope with loneliness include having a strong faith, acknowledging the importance of prayer, accepting loss and coming to terms with the fact that a person is alone. It also is important for seniors to take care of their health so that a loss of mobility does not isolate them, he said. Seniors also should consider the time and talents that they are able to give, and they should maintain social connections to counter loneliness. “Within the church parish level, they can join a social-programming group or some involvement in their church,” Father Abas said. Most importantly, seniors should turn to others if they are feeling isolated, he noted. “The way to work through it is to ask for help from people,” Father Abas said. More Information on US Elder Rights Issues Copyright © Global Action on Aging Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Contact Us

IAGG

National and International Presentations

19th IAGG WORLD CONGRESS OF GERONTOLOGY AND GERIATRICS,

PARIS, FRANCE 5 – 9, JULY 2009.

International Presentations:

Presented at the World Congress of Gerontology and Geriatrics which was held in Paris, France.

With Professor Dr. Theo van Tilburg

Professor Social Gerontology

VrijeUniversiteit Amsterdam

With Professor Dr. J. Gierveld, J. (Honorary Fellow)

Netherlands Interdisciplinary Demographic Institute

With Professor Dale Dannefer

Selah Chamberlain Professor of Sociology

Chair Department of Sociology

Case Western Reserve University

10900 Euclid Avenue

Cleveland, Ohio 44106-7124

...Great and fruitful work!

INDIVIDUAL THERAPEUTIC INTEGRATION: PAINTING/ ART,

SACRED DRUMMING & REFLECTIVE DISCUSSION

"I sensed during my reflective drumming that God is trying to have me realize that an important part

of why my spiritual journey has been so uniquely blessed by God, is because God created me

so we. God has always been so free with blessing me and in allowing me to know God's presence

with me." JHH meeting week of Dec 16 2009.

God seems to be giving me this message...

"Do not hide or deny that you are created in my image as I loved you into being...it is is nothing to

be ashamed of...It is the reason I have blessed you so uniquely during your life journey...

the wheelchair is an appropriate symbol and remembrance of God's love for me." JHH meeting of

Dec 1, 2009.

Below is the product from the "Individual Therapeutic Integration: Painting/Art, Sacred Drumming &

Reflective Discussion.

God is Love - God is Light

I have given this painting the title: God is Love - God is Light

The aim in doing this painting is to represent my life journey as I currently "envision" it. During

the past few months, Fr.P has been companioning me and guiding me, with the assistance

of hand drumming, to allow me to discern my relationship with God. This was done by carefully

considering while drumming and in prayerful reflection, a multitude of my life "events." These were

the moments throughout my life when I felt I have been especially "close" to the Divine. Fr.P in

journeying with me, has been encouraging me to integrate these "events" into the context of my

entire life journey.

In the painting:

The outer blue area represents my "Sacred Void" which is in the "realm" that I am most easily

open to connecting with God alone, in prayer, Eucharist, dreams, Near Death Experiences, etc.

Throughout my whole life, I have felt God's presence with me but it is especially strong

and intimate when God allows me to enter my "Sacred Void."

The huge yellow circle centered in the "Sacred Void" represents the "light" which engulfed me

during my Near Death Experiences when I was a child. I feel that it is the closest a human

can come close to God and "live." Being an infant and young adolescent at these times and

not knowing people experienced such phenomena, allowed me to be very "open" to the

experiences. I always have and still seem to continue to compare everything in my life

to the wonderful warm,loving and comforting feelings that I remember experiencing at the time.

Everything else pales in comparison and the memory has never faded.

I am looking forward to traveling through the tunnel and once again being "united" with

the "light" (at the end my my earthly journey).

Next with the "light" is a fiery circle represent my awareness of God's "Love" which has continuously

nourished me throughout my entire life.

The heart in the center of this circle represents God's "Love" which has continuously nourished me

throughout my entire life.

The heart in the center of this circle represents God's "Love" for me, in which I find my great love

for God. These love feelings have come in prayer but I am always humbled by Eucharist.

It is always an opportunity to encounter Jesus directly and intimately but, also a reminder

of the extent of God's Love for me. Jesus coming among us to show us how to live as
"sister and brothers" with Him and the great "Love" His Father has for me. He also showed
God's great "Love" for me through His Incarnation,Dying, Rising, and Ascension.

In the center of the heart is the symbol for Jesus (Chi-Rho) at the top of an anchor.

Jesus is the anchor of my great love for God. Around the heart is an orange circle representing

fire and dynamic burning of God's Love (Holy Spirit).

I have placed within this fiery orange region, fertile green areas. They represent mysteries that

I cannot possibly know about God, (me being human) and areas of future growth in my "knowing"

God more intensely (what God chooses to reveal to me and invites me to know.) They are green

because of their potential for my growth. there are also a few openings in the green "barrier" to

represent the special "Light and Love events" which God has allowed me to experience.

Within the green area., I added the title which represents the primary focus of my journey.

God is Light 1 John Chapter 1:5

God is Love 1 John Chapter 4

FP added the lines extending the light into the blue "Void" to represent his companioning me

on this journey to find a better integration of my life experience.

,,,It did work and produced wonderful therapy!

Individual Therapeutic Integration : Sacred Drumming, Painting/Art and Reflective Discussion

INDIVIDUAL THERAPEUTIC INTEGRATION: PAINTING/ART &

REFLECTIVE DISCUSSION

Conversation took place and this was how the painting been painted on the canvas

Colors of Life

The dialogue that follows depicts her sincere reflections of specific feeling and its relationship to color.

She no longer felt inadequate as an artist by the time we finished discussing this – and – was very eager to

give her feeling about words and colors and to weave this creative plain.

FP: Thank you Sister, for sharing. Excellent.

Sister: Since I didn’t know what to do, the Lord did it.

FP: Sister, you said you are not an artist. If I can bring a big canvas here, you can express

with different colors. I think you can do that. For example, give me one word that was there.

Sister: Brilliant.

FP: Okay, brilliant, now if you had a canvas, what color, do you like to use. What color would you use?

Sister: I LOVE purple.

FP: Okay, then you love purple. Then I will be sitting down here, and I will play one music tape.

I will use a very simple music tape. I will use “Yahweh You are Near”. When I play that,

until the music stops and you just keep on moving. Your expression of brilliant will be in the color that you like.

What is the next one?

Sister: Dazzling.

FP: Okay dazzling. What color is dazzling for you, Sister?

Sister: Uh, red.

FP: Okay, red. How do you imagine that is going to be?

Sister: I think it could have many shades of red all around it and be dazzling.

FP: See, so we already have a kind of purple, and probably the red will be coming like

a sun-ray from the purple. The brilliantness and the dazzling, is coming. Now, pick one or two more words.

Sister: Okay, well, flowering.

FP: Ok now, what color do you like to express flowering with?

Sister: Oh, pink and blue or yellow.

FP: Ok. Where will we put that on that big canvas?

Sister: If it’s going to be flowering, it should be on the bottom coming up.

FP: Ok. Look at the interpretation now. This flower produces beautiful aroma.

If you put it towards the bottom, the flower will produce that brilliantness.

The brilliantness produces that ray. See how it is now?

Sister: And the last one will be resplendent.

FP: What color are you going to use for that?

Sister: Oh, I’d like a mixture of pink, like that.

FP: And where would you like to put that, when you imagine that now?

Sister: I think the whole thing is resplendent.

FP: So, in the background, like this, behind. So, it might be a little bit light.

Then, darker and darker, so that’s how it is. That’s exactly how you want to do it. We can work on it.

What a joy to see the fruits!

Group Therapeutic Integration: Painting/Art, Sacred Drumming & Reflective Discussion

Group members from the "Wisdom of the Drum" program who came together for three Fridays to

drum, to paint and to share their inner feelings. There were 26 participants who attended this

program ages between 60 to 93 years old.

Just follow your inner feeling and produce the beat according to how you are feeling!

The paintings become more vivid

"What a surprise to walk into the room where we were meeting Father Abas and his "Wisdom of the

Drums" and see a huge pile of drums and sticks in the middle of the floor! This was not going to be

a one-drum recital by Father; we were all going to play drums! It was an exciting moment when, at

Father;s direction, with smiles on everyone's face we picked up our sticks and flailed away at our

drums. Father said the drum covers were made of goatskin." By Virginia Fleche- Abstract from

Chrism, ISM December, 2009 Volume 7, Issue 4.

"The existence of inner peace in us produce the harmony of the sacred

sound of our drums." Abas, December 2009.

Gently move your hands, your mallets and beat the drum.

Through the sacred drumming a person can be inspired to express his/her feeling in painting/art.

Changes in our lives told in the Wisdom of the Drums

"Change has always been difficult for me. Times like when I moved to Rochester, being

in a strange place and not knowing anybody. The Serenity Prayer has been my daily strength.

Accepting some of these changes helps me be close to the Lord ever day. " -Josie Baccoli-

"Death is a big change in your life when it happens in your family.

Often this change will open

new doors and we move on. It may lead to opportunities for a new relationships

and new postives in your life." -Gen LaMendola-

I always have to be organized and I organize things. Sometimes things do not go my way
and I can't sleep. Then it suddenly comes to me that I've reached a point in life when
I have no control of things; myself, my children, everything. Then its in God's hands.

You surrender yourself totally to His will and ask for His guidance. You can always trust in Him.

-Ruby Talbot-

A lot of changes come to us and we don't see any choice at all- but we always have a choice in

how we accept change. If you can accept the change and move on that's the beginning

of some peace and some happiness in life.-Sandy Doran-

"There have been a lot of changes in my life but God has been good to me. I'm slowing down

taking longer to do tasks. But this is rewarding too. I am looking at my family more closely by

slowing down and really appreciating what's around me. It 's giving me more time to read

and pray. I work at letting go, not taking life so seriously, enjoying life and

being more encouraging to my family." -Mary Alice Meyers