Saturday, December 13, 2008

...Pray Without Ceasing...


Sometimes a lonely person who seeks help from a friend or a minister gets the answer: "Well, you just need to pray about your problems and the Lord will work them out." This advice can rub many people the wrong way. Too often it is given in an unsympathetic manner. But let's not be so critical of this response that we overlook it altogether.

Prayer can be an extremely effective tool in over-coming loneliness. In 1 Thessalonians 5:7 we are given the simple directive: "Pray without ceasing."
Overcoming Loneliness, Carter, Meier & Minirth (2000).

Friday, December 12, 2008

Good News- Abstract been accepted 19th IAGG World Congress, 2009 Paris, France


Abstract number : 392
Abstract title : LONELINESS AND LIVED EXPERIENCES OF ELDERLY INDIVIDUALS LIVING INDEPENDENTLY: HERMENEUTIC PHENOMENOLOGICAL APPROACH.
Theme : Behavioural and psychological sciences


Dear Prof. Peter Abas,

On behalf of the Scientific Committee, we are pleased to inform you that your abstract listed above has been accepted for presentation at the 19th IAGG World Congress which will take place in Paris from 5 to09 July 2009.

This notification is only being sent to the presenting authors of each abstract and we kindly ask you to share this information with your co-authors.

Please be reminded that all presenters must register for the conference and pay the registration fee in order to confirm their presentation. Failure to do this could result in withdrawing your presentation from the conference program. In order to benefit from the regular bird registration fee, we kindly invite you to register on-line on the Congress website at http://www.gerontologyparis2009.com/before 31 January 2009.


A final notification of acceptance with further details on your presentation (either it has been selected as an oral communication or a poster, time, location, preparation guidelines, etc…) will be sent to you by March 2009.

We thank you very much for your collaboration and are looking forward to your presentation.

Yours sincerely,


Prof Bernard Forette Prof Bruno VellasCongress President Scientific Committee Chairman

Should you have any further questions, do not hesitate to contact our Organizing Secretariat:

ICEO - International Congress & Event Organizers
Your contact : Elodie Bouvier / Speakers Management
Tel: + 32 (0)2 779 59 59 - Fax: + 32 (0)2 779 59 60E-mail: mailto:programme@gerontologyparis2009.com

Prayer for Older People


Prayer for Older People


Our Father in Heaven, I come to you seeking your mercy and love in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Fill me with a deeper faith and trust in you. help me to know even more the depths of your forgiveness. I ask you to grant this in the name of your Son, Jesus christ, who lives and reigns forever. Amen.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Do we have time to listen?


Listening to understand:

.The more we understand about one another, the less we fear.

.The less we fear, the more we trust.

.The more we trust, the more our hearts open to love one another.

The Sacred Art of Listening. -Kay Lindahl-

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

...each day..new learning for me...

Fruits and vegetables are vital as they contain fibre that is crucial in the prevention of intestinal problems like constipation, diverticulosis and diverticulitis

GLIMPSE of events...
"Where am I suppose to go now?" asked by an 88 year old woman. In fact she was on the right place because it was time for lunch. She was very confused and wanted to walk out from the dinning hall. I said to her, "look at the table overthere, do you see your friends?" She smiled and said, "yes, thank you, thank you."

I asked an 87 year old man, "where are you going?" He responded, "I am going to the class." In fact, he was sitting down and ate most of his food. I told him, there is no more activity at this moment, it is time to take lunch." I further tell him, "continue to enjoy your food." He insisted in telling me that he is going to class. I told him, "Ok, you need to eat first and then you will attend the class." He smiled and said, "I am going to class after this." I told him, "Yes and enjoy your food first." I walked away from him and I saw him enjoying his food.

The events happened today in my working place. God bless these elderly peoples they are great and blessing to work with them.

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

The healing power of a drum


WHAT ARE YOUR LIFE RHYTHMS?
What rhythms are you aware of in your life?

Do you see yourself as being slow, medium, or fast in your thinking process?
Also rank your feeling and behavior processes, in terms of slow, medium, or fast rhythm.

Describe your life tempo. What is a normal day like for you? Do you see yourself being in synchrony with the world, or do you usually feel more out-of-sorts with your environment?


The above questionaire was devised by Jim Anderson as a way to help individuals gain information as to how rhythm impacts their life.

Monday, December 8, 2008

...they don't miss a beat!


Sisters of Mercy Motherhouse residents prove they don't miss a beat
(Publication Date: 12-05-2008) By Amy Kotlarz/Catholic Courier BRIGHTON --

The monthly drum circle at the Sisters of Mercy Motherhouse starts early, allowing the sound of drums to reverberate to the floors above and below.
"Why don’t we just play and wake up the others?" Father Peter Abas, motherhouse chaplain and sacramental minister at Henrietta's Guardian Angels Parish, jokingly suggested to those gathered for the November session.
Father Abas, who began leading the motherhouse’s drum circle several months ago, headed around the room passing out drums, maracas and other percussion instruments big and small to the group of elderly sisters, priests and laypeople.
Once all had instruments, Father Abas suggested they warm up, and he clapped out a beat with his hands. On his cue, participants joined in with taps, booms, bangs and clangs. Father Abas then added a more complex rhythm, and Sister Margaret Caufield, a retired music teacher, created a melody from her perch at the piano.
The din came to a prompt close when Father Abas counted "4-3-2-1," and then the jokes started.
"We can make a lot of money if we go for a concert," the priest quipped.
Yet unlike many other musical groups, this drum circle is an end unto itself. Father Abas, who has led several other area drum circles, noted its therapeutic aspects: It helps people relax, gives them energy, and allows them to vent frustrations and express their talents. At the outset, he said, some of the participants seemed weak, but after even one session of drumming, they appeared to be invigorated.
To illustrate this point, during a break in the music Father Abas asked the 80- and 90-year-old participants how they felt.
"Oh, about 25," one sister responded.
"I want to get up and dance," said Sister Mary Carmella Coene, who will turn 100 on Dec. 21. During the circle, she vigorously hit a bass drum as tall as the seat on her wheelchair.
After the drumming session Father Abas pointed out that many of the circle’s participants live in the motherhouse’s dementia unit.
"This is the first time I have done it (a drum circle) in a residence and with some in a state of Alzheimer’s or dementia," he noted.
To help them get the full benefit of the circle, he gently encouraged participants who were reluctant to pick up an instrument and try drumming. For example, one sister who was wheeled to the circle tried to turn down the offer of a drum.
"I don’t want any," she said. "I don’t want to make noise."
"Today, you are not making noise, you are producing noise," Father Abas remarked as he handed her a drum.
Other participants said they are sold on the circle and on Father Abas.
"I think Father’s spirit is so wonderful," Sister Mary Jude Rockenbrock said.
"You don’t have to do it exactly, and you don’t have to be musical," Sister Rita Biel remarked.
"When you really get going, you can feel the other people take over," said Father David Doerner, a former missionary to Japan who participated in the circle.
The communal nature of the circle is one reason why Sister Caufield, the piano player, said she pines to be back in its midst.
"One hour of piano playing at my age is difficult," said Sister Caufield, who taught at Rochester's St. Andrew and St. John the Evangelist schools.
But if it is difficult, Sister Caufield doesn’t let on. As participants call out the names of songs from the patriotic ("God Bless America"), to the nostalgic ("You are my Sunshine"), to the seasonal ("Santa Claus is Coming to Town"), she pulled the melodies from her memory.
Some sisters joined in singing the songs. Sister Caufield’s biological sister, Sister Ann Caufield, said it's clear that people find it fun to be a part of the circle.
"By the looks on their faces, everybody seems to enjoy it," she observed.

CatholicCourier.Com